Peer Pressure

Contributor: Shannon Malkovsky. Lesson ID: 10449

Read this lesson! Don't be a wimp! Peer pressure is hard to handle, but you should do this lesson because you will learn how to say "No" to peer pressure! Watch a video and make a "Saying No" poster!


Life Skills

Life Skills
learning style
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Lion, Otter
Grade Level
Intermediate (3-5)
Lesson Type
Quick Query

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You’re studying for tomorrow’s quiz when some of your teammates come by. They want you to shoot some hoops with them. “You’re not going to nerd out on us, are you?” they ask. What do you do?

Have you ever been pressured to do something similar to the previous scenario?

If so, how did you feel when you were being pressured? Today, you will learn about peer pressure and how you can stand up to peer pressure.

What is peer pressure? It is the feeling that someone your own age is pushing you towards making a certain choice, good or bad.

Peer pressure that is bad is called negative peer pressure. Peer pressure that is good is called positive peer pressure. Can you think of an example of negative peer pressure and positive peer pressure?

Peer pressure can either be spoken or unspoken.

Spoken Pressure It’s when a person asks you directly to do something, or says things to you that push you toward a certain choice.

Unspoken Pressure It’s when nothing is actually said to you, but because you see others doing something, you feel pressured to do the same.

3 Types of Spoken Pressure

  • Rejection - threatening to leave someone out or end a friendship
  • Put down - insulting or calling names to make someone feel bad
  • Reasoning - giving reasons to do something or why it would be OK to do it

3 Types of Unspoken Pressure

  • The Huddle - a group stands together talking or laughing, maybe looking at something that you can't see, with their backs out to others
  • The Look - kids who think they're cool give a look that says we're cool, you're not
  • The Example - popular kids either buy, wear, or do something, and because they set an example, others want to follow

If someone is pressuring you to do something that you don't want to do, you have the right to say "No." Sometimes standing up for yourself can be hard, but the more strategies you have to recognize peer pressure and to deal with it, the easier the situation will be. Standing up and saying "No" can also make you feel good about yourself!

Have you ever stood up for yourself and said "No" to peer pressure? How did you do it?

Brainstorm ways that you can stand up to peer pressure.

Refusal Skills

  1. Be clear about the problem and what is making you feel uncomfortable. For example,"That is mean. I don't want to hurt Sally's feelings."
  2. Think about what could happen if you give in to peer pressure. Could anyone get hurt? Could you get in trouble? How would it make you feel?
  3. Suggest something else that you can do instead.

Watch the following PSA Peer Pressure video to give you additional tips on how to stand up to peer pressure:


Write in your journal or discuss with your instructor about a time when you experienced peer pressure.

What happened? How did you feel? Was it positive or negative peer pressure? Was it spoken or unspoken pressure? What strategies did you use in this situation or what strategies have you learned about that may have helped in this situation?

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